This helps him to realize that your time is valuable and that he'll have to go out of his way to see you. "Don't move dates around too much—that can get frustrating for a guy who also has a busy schedule like you," Trespicio says.It's easy to let parts of yourself go when you meet someone you think is the man of your dreams. "Trying to be someone you're not is so transparent to a guy," Kelman says."If you're always waiting around, he won't feel the need to try that hard."Build some intrigue into your schedule that keeps him wanting more.
"You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.
Spending Saturday morning in the soup kitchen or helping an elderly person carry his groceries may be all it takes to have him calling you girlfriend.
Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.
If you feel confident at this point that you want things to be serious, go ahead and tell him, Trespicio says.
In a recent British study, people rated potential sexual partners to be more attractive for a long-term relationship if they had altruistic qualities.
"Giving back to others shows your good heart and integrity, and although they may not consciously think that far in the future, men are subconsciously assessing maternal traits in a woman to see what kind of mother she'd be," Kelman says.
"The best type of date allows you to stop texting, put the phone down, and really foster a deep connection," Kelman says.
Restaurants can be nice, but try something a little outside your comfort zone from time to time.
Even if you're anxiously awaiting his call, you shouldn't be available every time he wants to see you.
"You want to create something worth investing in and make him realize your value," Trespicio says.
If it's been about six months and he hasn't dropped one hint about where he sees this going, casually speak up, says Jennifer Kelman, a licensed social worker and relationship expert at